We ALL earned it, don’t you think! Well, I do. And even if you do not, I have several ideas of how a getaway will be beneficial right now more than ever. And, NO! I am not encouraging travel. That is exactly it. We need a break, people! We need to just pause, take a break, and assess where we are right now. Pause. Stop what you are doing right now. Take a deep breath and hold it for five seconds, now release it, blow it out. Read no further until that is done.
LET’S TALK ABOUT THE POWER OF THE PAUSE.
It can be difficult to adjust to sudden change. It can be difficult to shift when forced. I know. I understand. But, trying to live life as we always have, or to close enough to what we have, is really costing all of us, a lot. Forcing someone to do something they do not want to do, whether it is have a conversation, stay at home and practice quarantine and social distancing, go somewhere, stay somewhere, or something else, it is uncomfortable. It is unhealthy and unproductive.
Practice the power of pausing. Take a break! Even if that break is just for fifteen minutes to do some deep breathing, release writing, read or watch or listen to something encouraging, pray, meditate, cry, or get fresh air; take a break. Take a moment to assess where you are, how you are feeling, and do what you need to do to get back to an emotionally safe and mentally healthy space.
Sometimes, all it takes is a moment. Especially if we can notice that the emotional reaction may not align with the situation, and may be exaggerated. Notice the trigger, and pause. Take a moment to feel what you feel. Often times, as busy adults, we do not have time to address every unhealthy feeling or thought in the moment. But, we as adults, also have habits of suppressing those emotions and never readdressing them. Until they show up as thyroid issues, disease, hypertension, or fibroids.
The management comes in taking a moment to see if you can get to a healthy headspace quickly or not. And if not, make an appointment and deal with the emotion at a later time. Do not suppress it and think it will go away. It won’t. It will come out again and again, in an unexpected, and often unwanted, way, until it is dealt with. Just like you put a dentist appointment in your schedule, Wednesday, 2 pm, make a date and deal with your frustration. Deal with your loneliness, deal with your anger, deal with your negative thoughts. But, take a moment, and do what it takes so you, and the people around you, are well, and healthy. and nobody is paying the price for your unhealed issues and trauma.
HERE ARE A FEW WAYS TO HONOR THE POWER OF THE PAUSE:
- Notice your emotional responses to uncomfortable situations– If the emotional reaction is bigger than the situation, that is a trigger for an unresolved issue. Honor the pause. Take a moment to feel your feelings and realize that you need to deal with something deeper. Take the time you need to get yourself together, then readdress the situation.
- Set a sleep schedule– do not underestimate how sleep plays a part in emotional, physical, mental, and spiritual health. The body and mind need a break. Honor the pause, and give yourself rest. Yes, life is busy and there are a lot of things to do in a day. BUT, the “Sleep when I’m dead.” may have you dead before you want. Get some rest.
- Deep breathing– Take time several times a day just to practice deep breathing. Push away from your desk, turn the television off, put your phone and other electronics away, and breathe. Close your eyes and take several deep breaths. This will allow you to circle back to thoughts and feelings you may have put away without knowing. Hopefully, they are positive, but let’s be real, we are not all positive, all the time. We have to train ourselves. Taking time to breathe, and tap into those feelings and thoughts, allows you to assess where you are, and assess what you need to readdress.
Honor the pause, beautiful people!💙
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