I’d like to take a moment to pay my respects to the recently deceased Kevin Samuels. I mentioned my admiration for him in a post earlier this week, and I’d like to go into more detail about why I liked him and his message and why this loss is a great one, especially for the black community.
Although nothing anyone does all the time is liked by everyone, and I didn’t agree with some of the name calling and antics Mr. Samuels displayed and used, I totally and wholeheartedly approved of the root message: women, specifically black women, need to get back in order. I have been saying this very thing myself for quite some time now. People that know me, especially my twin daughters, weren’t surprised that I liked Kevin Samuels. I agreed with him, that black women don’t consider what black men want in relationships, yet want themselves to be fully considered in one. I agreed that black women have lost our sense of pride in our appearance and have, instead, turned into dolled up caricatures in a sense.
I’ve had many conversations about fake eyelashes and bundles of weave with my daughters and other black women. I’ve openly and consistently expressed my disdain for false eyelashes. They look ridiculous to me and I will never understand why women choose to wear such dramatic, long, insect looking things pasted to their eyelids.
I will also never understand bundles of hair, sewn into braids, flowing past your thighs. I am all for a good and gorgeous protective style. I wear braids and twists to protect my natural hair sometimes. I do not, however, understand having hair down to the floor. I have never worn a sew in. Ever. I know, to each his own, and I believe that. Only with certain things, though, and that is why I agreed with Kevin Samuels.
He stressed the importance of women being in traditional roles if desiring traditional men. He stressed the importance of acknowledging the truth about our sexual choices and outcomes. He stressed the fact that black women and black men used to pair together and stay together, and now they don’t and at alarming numbers.
I’m sad Kevin Samuels is gone. I’m truly sorry for his daughter and mother, his friends, and other people that admired and looked up to him, that understood his message, and the need for it. His legacy is one I intend to do my part in carrying, and branch off to create my own. Telling my story will not only help shed more light on the things Kevin Samuels talked about, but it will also help shed more light on the urgency of the image of the black woman changing, and changing now!
Rest In Peace, dear Kevin Samuels. Rest In Peace.
Were you a Kevin Samuels supporter or detractor? Did you agree with his message? What were your thoughts on what he said and stood for, to your understanding? Let me know by leaving a comment below.