Where do I start? If you’ve ever been on a dating app then you know that it is saturated with people from all over the world. All dating apps are not the same, and, from the few that I’ve been on, some are far better than others. I first tried a dating app back in 2018. I had been divorced for a full year, I had a new job working in corporate America making more money than I ever had before (which isn’t saying much considering I was a stay at home wife and mother for about a decade) and I decided it was time to put myself out there and meet people, specifically men. I wasn’t initially sure if I wanted a serious committed relationship since I had just gotten a divorce the year prior, but I did know that I wanted and needed new experiences in the dating market. I had been off the market for over ten years and I knew things and people had changed. And I needed to see it for myself.
The first thing I noticed after trying three different dating apps is that online dating is not for me. There are far too many options, too many people that you have access to online, that it makes it almost impossible to navigate. I’ve heard stories of people meeting their spouses on a dating app and I believe that could happen – just not for me. I’m already indecisive as it is, and when you add in thousands of handsome, professional, well groomed, well spoken, intelligent, kind, and beautiful black men, it makes it very hard for me to move through the online dating space. I don’t like all the options. It’s like, you choose a guy, you talk and meet and all you can do is hope for the best. But, there are no guarantees. If that doesn’t go anywhere you start over. Now, I understand that is how it works off the internet, too. But again, this is my issue with online dating: too many damn options! Women are naturally indecisive, so when you add in access to many many men, which equates to many options, women could easily “monkey branch” and stay with one man until they think someone “better” comes along, then swing to his branch.
Let me ask you this: do you think dating apps have contributed to the rise in failed relationships and failed marriages? Do you think having access to so many people makes it impossible for people to settle down and commit? I’m really curious what you think. I definitely think that having access to so many people all over the world makes it easier to stay single or to leave a relationship. I just wonder: how many people factor in that access to people doesn’t mean compatibility, doesn’t mean commonalities, doesn’t mean commitment?
What do you think? Have you ever been on a dating app? And if so what was your experience like? Do you recommend them or are you like me and prefer to meet people the old fashioned way? Let me know by leaving me a comment below and come back tomorrow for more about dating apps and their drama.